EILEEN ADLER

Frustration is the feeling of being upset or annoyed and is very common.  It’s related to anger, annoyance, and disappointment but it arises from the perceived resistance to achieve your goals. At their origin, feelings of uncertainty and insecurity which results from the sense that needs cannot be fulfilled can cause frustration.  

Frustration may raise its ugly head in dealing with daily hassles, interpersonal conflicts, relationships, stressful current or even world events, and the work related to caregiving. Managing frustration is a goal for all care givers.   

Five approaches to manage frustrations:

1. Stop and assess the “why” behind the moments of frustration. Take 5.
2. What might help to support you?
3. Breathe to try and remain calm.
4. Honor the things that do work.
5. What can you change to minimize frustration?

I have a small whiteboard and every day, I write the day of the week, the date in numerals, and the date in words. I draw a line and list the times and activities for the day. When your care receiver asks, “What’s happening,” rather than repeating the response repeatedly, ask, “Have you checked the white board?” Each line is a different color to help, not color-coded, I alternate colors, but you could color-code activities.

 Life Lesson: Right now, I’m ok. “For fast-acting relief, try slowing down,” advises Lily Tomlin