EILEEN ADLER

There are many ways to curb your anger. Just a few suggestions but always remember, there are always possibilities. Feelings oscillate – going this way and that.

1. THINK before you speak.  
   
2. I use SAFE, asking myself, am I feeling sad, am I feeling angry or anxious, or am I feeling fearful or frustrated? Once I determine my feelings, I’m better able to handle them. The E stands for empowerment!
3. Get some exercise. Nothing reduces my stress more than a brisk walk. Find an exercise habit that you enjoy and will continue.

4. Time Out is not just for children. Give yourself a time out if the going is too tough.
5. Understand that some things are out of your control so set realistic boundaries. Be in the moment and avoid words like should, never, always, and hate.
6. If in doubt, throw out YOU! When you’ve cooled off, express your feelings in a nonconfrontational way, beginning with “I feel . . .”
   
7. Humor and laughter are great ways to re-direct an unwanted behavior.

8. Breathe deeply or use other relaxation techniques like listening to music, saying a mantra, drawing, meditation. So many fabulous options – start with one.
9. Express your gratitude by writing in your journal. Writing is a process that provides clarity.

10. Get enough sleep.
    

11. Know when to seek help. Don’t wait until it’s too late.
12. Diet – eat it if flies or swims and eat the bushes.