"Courageous care partners recharge with self-care, striving for peaceful pinnacles
in patience, persistence, and positive 
changes, knowing when to conquer and when to comfort."

The best thing to hold onto in life is each other. -Audrey Hepburn

Aug 01, 2022 by Eileen Adler

Comparing is a fool’s game that never ends well. 
Comparisons are always based on incomplete pictures or inaccurate assumptions, no better than illusions. Mark Twain said, “Comparison is the death of joy.” Textile artist Brit Boles “Indigo Doula” believes that “comparison is the thief of joy.” Nothing good comes from measuring ourselves with someone else’s yardstick.


“Other people’s lives seem better than yours because you’re comparing their director’s cuts with your behind the scenes.” ― Evan Rauch

Is this your mind script that loops and loops?

“I need to stand up for myself.”

“I have too many negative thoughts.”

“I feel unlovable, broken, and like I make a mess of things.”

Does a glance in the mirror bring on an onslaught of ugh, ew, bleh, gross —

“Look in the mirror rather than at your neighbor,” said Frank Sonnenberg.

Instead of taking a ride down that slippery slope, ask yourself these questions:

  • What am I doing today that I couldn’t have done in the recent past?
  • How have I accomplished in the last year that I might have found inconceivable before?
  • What new decisions or actions have I made that took me to new destinations? 
  • What are my wins this year, compared to last year at this time?
  • How has my life improved? How have I improved?
  • Am I patient with myself? This one does take some time.

Sophia Loren eyeing Jayne Mansfield in 1957, explained it this way: 'I was afraid her breasts would spill out on my plate!'