Mel Robbins: The High-5 Habit
“No one knows what it’s like to be in your shoes but you. That’s why you must practice being kind to yourself and giving yourself the love, support, and celebration, you need.” (The High-5 Habit, Mel Robbins, p 30)
“You have three core emotional needs: to be seen, heard, and loved for the unique individual that you are. When those emotional needs aren’t met, it’s not only a form of neglect, but you feel unloved, invisible, and unfulfilled.” (The High-5 Habit, Mel Robbins, p59)
To be heard, to make decision, but we may be stalled by Analysis Paralysis, occurring when we are unable to decide due to over thinking a problem, and often the basis of this is anxiety choosing the wrong solution, imagining the downsides of all of them. An early example of this is Hamlet’s query: “to be or not to be.” This is not knowledge which provides courageous power but it’s interesting to note that analysis paralysis may lead to poor choices – an adequate solution over an optimal solution.
Suggestions for making better decisions:
1. Structure your day for the decisions that matter most.
2. Intentionally limit the amount of information you consume.
3. Set a deadline and hold yourself accountable.
4. Talk it out with someone else. This is THE reason for participating in a support group.
5. Start before you feel ready.
Parkinson’s Law states that work expands to fill the amount of time you’ve allotted it. Setting a time constraint can force you to decide more efficiently. Cyril Northcote Parkinson (1909-1993) was a British naval historian and author of some 60 books, the most famous of which was his best-seller Parkinson's Law (1957).
“It doesn’t matter if you’re trying to start a business, lose weight, write a book, or achieve any number of goals… who you are, what you have, and what you know right now is good enough
to get going.” wrote Becky Kane, Senior Content Marketing Manager at Doist.
Life Lesson: “I learned to look at my reflection with kindness, with love, even with a tinge of excitement — like I was seeing my best friend,” wrote Mary Jo Campbell, author of YA realistic fiction.