EILEEN ADLER

"Courageous care partners recharge with self-care, striving for peaceful pinnacles
in patience, persistence, and positive 
changes, knowing when to conquer and when to comfort."

Making Meaning of Grief

Oct 02, 2023 by Eileen Adler

Grief is another name for love and "grief is the price we pay for love.”
– Queen Elizabeth II.


The person we once knew no longer exists. Although they may still be alive, they’re no longer psychologically present. The resulting grief can feel very agonizing and real. This is called ambiguous loss.

    1. Meaning is relative and personal.
    2. Meaning can be illusive – it may come immediately or sometime in the future.
    3. It’s not always necessary to fully grasp the

            meaning, it may be a feeling.

    1. The way a loss is interpreted is not a lesson,

           a system, or sequence, a gift, or

           even a blessing. It’s it simply the way it

           is processed by you. Grief is not linear.

    1. There’s nothing wrong with you for feeling sad, confused, and even angry that there’s no finality to your loss.  “Keep in mind that a broken heart is an open heart.” – Louise Hay & David Kessler.
    2.  “Never. We never lose our loved ones. They accompany us; they don’t disappear from our lives. We are merely in different rooms.” – Paulo Coelho, Aleph

Life lesson: “What you leave behind is not what is engraved in stone monuments, but what is woven into the lives of others.” —Pericles