Making Meaning of Grief
Oct 02, 2023 by Eileen Adler
Grief is another name for love and "grief is the price we pay for love.”
– Queen Elizabeth II.
The person we once knew no longer exists. Although they may still be alive, they’re no longer psychologically present. The resulting grief can feel very agonizing and real. This is called ambiguous loss.
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- Meaning is relative and personal.
- Meaning can be illusive – it may come immediately or sometime in the future.
- It’s not always necessary to fully grasp the
meaning, it may be a feeling.
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- The way a loss is interpreted is not a lesson,
a system, or sequence, a gift, or
even a blessing. It’s it simply the way it
is processed by you. Grief is not linear.
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- There’s nothing wrong with you for feeling sad, confused, and even angry that there’s no finality to your loss. “Keep in mind that a broken heart is an open heart.” – Louise Hay & David Kessler.
- “Never. We never lose our loved ones. They accompany us; they don’t disappear from our lives. We are merely in different rooms.” – Paulo Coelho, Aleph
Life lesson: “What you leave behind is not what is engraved in stone monuments, but what is woven into the lives of others.” —Pericles