EILEEN ADLER

"Courageous care partners recharge with self-care, striving for peaceful pinnacles
in patience, persistence, and positive 
changes, knowing when to conquer and when to comfort."

‘JOMO’ is the joy of missing out.

Jun 27, 2022 by Eileen Adler

‘JOMO’ is the joy of missing out, a feeling of contentment with one’s own pursuits and activities, without worrying over the possibility of missing out on what others may be doing.  

 

 

 

‘FOMO’ is the fear of missing out. JOMO is the opposite, it’s the joy of missing out, downtime, personal time and, for a care partner, this may become a coveted time. Simply finding joy in the now, in what you have, is a blessing.

How do you develop your personal ‘JOMO?”

Be present in your moment – shut out what others are doing, don’t compare. "When you free up that competitive and anxious space in your brain, you have so much more time, energy and emotion to conquer your true priorities," explained Kristen Fuller in her in a blog post on “Psychology Today.”

Our attention has been co-opted by the media. Switching off that feeling of must-have connectedness – all the apps and social media and news feeds brings your world view back into focus, digital wellbeing – being alone is important.


Knitter, designer, and author of Knitted Shawls, Christine Boggis explains it this way: “Having a quiet cup of tea on my doorstep in the early morning; taking a walk in the woods with my family; curling up in front of a good TV show in the evening; swimming in the sea, which luckily I live close to, learning yoga from YouTube, reading a novel in bed; and of course knitting, any time, any place, anywhere. I feel I’ve gained independence from others and in my mind: I’m able to entertain myself in any situation.”


In response to this question, Do you think that creativity comes naturally to people? Or do you think creativity is a skill that people can learn? Christine responded, there is creativity in everyone, even if they don’t recognize it. Anyone can nurture that spark. And if they keep working at it, they will eventually create something they are really happy with. It’s never too late either. Whenever things slow down and my mind is able to unwind a bit, creative ideas start popping into my brain.”

 

Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson finds 'my peace and balance' while fishing. He wrote: "Man this was needed." 


Like these men, I find my balance with my knitting.