EILEEN ADLER

“How can I hold all of this together?”

Esther Perel is a psychotherapist focusing on couple relationships, coupledom. Listening to a conversation between Krista Tippet and Esther Perel awakened in me something unexpected, a sense of enlightenment in conjunction with a sense of loneliness and loss.

Esther Perel poses questions: what is me? and what is us? … this constant dance between me and you, between I and thou, is at the core of being human – change." This is the balance we are coping with as care partners, but change can make us feel chaotic. According to Esther Perel, if we don’t change, we fossilize. 

            Krista then asked Esther about the concept of ambiguous loss, defined as grief, which seemingly has no end or conclusion to wrap your head around. You may experience a psychological loss when your loved one is still present but may suffer from diminished mental capacity.

There is nothing lonelier than the loneliness experienced when you are

next to someone with whom you once did not feel lonely.

Is this you? It’s time to make a change.