"Courageous care partners recharge with self-care, striving for peaceful pinnacles
in patience, persistence, and positive 
changes, knowing when to conquer and when to comfort."

Happy Holidays - Enjoy the holidays because the other choice isn’t acceptable.

Dec 22, 2019 by Eileen Adler

“It's The Most Wonderful Time of The Year” was written in 1963 and first crooned by Andy Williams.  “Be of good cheer” the lyrics command; we’re trying our best, but between shopping, preparing meals, visiting, and caring for our care receiver, we may find ourselves feeling like curmudgeons. Maybe we need to adjust our expectations; easy to say, hard to do. The holidays trigger many emotions so try to focus on the actions that you can take to make things better. The holidays also bring up a host of memories and nostalgia that may no longer be possible now so plan something new, some meaningful time together by starting a new holiday tradition to look forward to. Speak these ideas aloud, write things down in a journal or talk these over with a listening companion, a trusted friend.

Focusing on these positive questions will surely brighten your day – they did mine. 

  1. What made you smile today?
  2. If you could change one thing about yesterday, what would that be?
  3. Think of something you know today that you didn’t know yesterday. What was your “aha” moment?
  4. What refreshed you from another day that you might do again today?
  5. Next time, I will say ‘no.’ What might you do instead to nourish your personal self-care rituals?

Self-care Ritual: After the holidays are over and the adrenaline rush has waned, things can feel once again, overwhelming. Ask for help to put the house back in order making it a festive event with lots of nibbles (purchased or potluck) and upbeat music. You won't be a care partner forever – savor the moments. 


Happy Holidays to you, your family, and all the friends you care about.


Quick Delicious Hot Chocolate – serves 1 – You deserve a break every day!

2 tablespoons sugar

1 tablespoon unsweetened powdered cocoa

1 cup milk – divided use ¼ and ¾ of a cup

Marshmallows and chocolate sauce – save for the topping. These are optional. 

Directions: mix the sugar and cocoa in a microwave-safe mug and stir to mix. Stir in ¼ of the milk and stir to create a paste; then pour in the remaining ¾ cup milk and mix well. 

Microwave on high (100%) for 1 minute and then stir. Add a few more seconds until the drink is hot. Pile on the marshmallows and drizzle with chocolate sauce. – yum!