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Who Needs Reasons?

Aug 11, 2019 by Eileen Adler
Ponder this question for a moment: Do you believe everything happens for a reason, or do we just find reasons after things happen? Often, when explaining how my husband was diagnosed with Parkinson’s disease, I supply this reason: he stood in the wrong line. No one deserves to get sick, but some people do. If there is a reason for any diagnosis, what might it be? What life lessons have I learned? I have learned many things including this acknowledgment: he has the disease, but we are both impacted by it. I’ve learned that we are strong; we are survivors. (That’s true for today anyway.) I can fix a loose towel bar by myself by problem-solving; I don’t need someone else to rescue me every time something goes awry. My husband’s drive to stay well inspires me to take care of myself. If he can go biking, so could I. Having fallen off a bike at the age of ten, breaking my front tooth, I no longer ride a bike, but I walk. No pity party here. We can plan all we want, but life is what happens, and being prepared for all the what-ifs has made us both stronger. Who needs reasons? Moving right along, it is what it is, acceptance.